Saturday, July 26, 2008

Consider the Generosity of the One-Year-Old


Jack Kornfield read this at one of his dharma talks at Spirit Rock, our spiritual home base.

Consider the Generosity of the One-Year-Old

who has no words to exchange with you yet
and instead offers up her favorite drooled-on blanket,
her green rhinoceros as big as she is,
her cloth doll with the long blond pigtails,
her battered cardboard books, swung open on their soggy pages.

If you were outdoors she would hand you a dead beetle,
a fistful of grass, a pebble,
by way of introduction or just because.
And if, a moment later, she wanted it back,
it would be for the joy of the game
that makes of every simple object an offering:
This is me. Here is who I am.

In the same way,
sun drapes a battered scarf across your face,
rose opens herself to your glance,
and rain shares its divine melancholy.
The whole world keeps whispering or shouting to you,
nibbling your ear like a neglected lover,

while you worry over matters of finance,
of “relationship,”
important issues related to getting and spending,
having and hoarding,

though you were once that baby,
though you are still that world.

~ Alison Luterman

Friday, July 25, 2008

Chocolate Chip Multi-Grain Banana Bread Recipe


This is so good, people!

Ingredients
4 ripe bananas, smashed
1 stick melted butter
2/3 cup sugar
1 egg, beaten
1 teaspoon vanilla
Pinch of salt
1 and 1/2 cups Trader Joe’s Multigrain Baking Mix
1 cup semisweet chocolate chips


Method
Preheat the oven to 350°F. With a wooden spoon or electric beateers, mix butter into the mashed bananas in a large mixing bowl. Mix in the sugar, egg, and vanilla. Sprinkle the salt over the mixture and mix in. Add the flour last and mix. Pour mixture into a buttered or Pam-sprayed lasagna pan. Bake for about 40-45 minutes, or until the toothpick comes clean. Leave it in the pan for a while and then continue cooling on a rack. Slice to serve and have an extra piece, since it's multigrain, right?

Down the rabbit hole of crunchiness: My metamorphosis in a tidy, bulleted nutshell.


I am always in awe of the transformative powers of motherhood. Let's compare and contrast the three Rachels that have existed since the day I found out I was pregnant with Ella.


PHASE I: IDEAS ABOUT MOTHERHOOD WHILE PREGNANT...

  • I want to try to breastfeed, but you never know...
  • I want to try to pick her up every time she cries.
  • Co-sleeping? No thanks! What if I squish her?
  • Mainstream baby products. I've been clipping baby stuff coupons from Target and Babies R Us.
  • Get on the day care waiting list now, it fills up really fast.
  • Got a great deal on a stroller and a crib! Woo-hoo!
  • I should really be thinking more about nutrition now that I'm pregnant. I'm just really putting off reading that big, fat book about what to eat when you're pregnant :X
  • Bring on the meat! Baby needs protein.
  • Good thing I'm such a strict teacher! This kid won't get away with anything...
  • I'm so glad we bought such a big house! We're going to need that room now that we're starting a family.
  • Breastfeeding is best I know, but it's kind of weird when kids breastfeed past infancy, isn't it?
  • I'm all for breastfeeding in public, but, I mean, come on -- there is such a thing as discretion.
  • Let the hospital staff do their thing once she's born, i.e. drops in the eyes, bath, vaccines, umbilical cord, etc. They do this EVERY DAY! I think they know what they're doing by now.
  • If natural birthing is the worst pain on Earth, why would I want to experience it? Life is too short! Epidural, please!
  • They told me to try to sleep before my induction, but I think I'll just sleep after I give birth.

PHASE II: IDEAS ABOUT MOTHERHOOD SOON DURING ELLA'S INFANCY...
  • I will do anything to make breastfeeding work, despite our breastfeeding problems. I would be crushed if I had to give it up now, not to mention what it would do to Ella.
  • How can anyone not pick up a crying baby?
  • We don't really "co-sleep," but I can't help falling asleep with her on my chest and it just feels so good...
  • I'm a little creeped out by mainstream baby products. I think we should start getting "crunchier" diapers, wipes and shampoo, even if it is more expensive.
  • Oh my God. I think I'm going to have to quit my job to re-lactate. How am I going to get out of my teaching contract?
  • Good thing we got a good deal on our stroller and crib, since she refuses to be in either one.
  • Let's try and see how much organic food we can afford to cram into our diet, especially when she starts eating solid foods.
  • I have an idea: if we cut back on our meat intake, we can afford to buy better, organic produce and higher quality meat.
  • I think I don't want to parent the hard-ass way I've been teaching.
  • We soooo don't need a house this big! All we do is sit on the bed in the master bedroom and breastfeed all day. The house could be just a kitchen, bathroom and the master bedroom, and it would feel the same right now.
  • Whoa. I just met a really cool mom who nursed her son till he was 5. I'm going to have to read more about that before I know how I feel about that...
  • Despite my couture nursing wrap, I am SICK OF COVERING while nursing in public. Seriously, I think I'm just going to stop. I just don't even care any more.
  • I wonder why they took her away from me so long when she was born. It's weird how that bath took, like, an hour.
  • I thought that a natural labor would be the worst pain on Earth. Now I think that postpartum depression has got to be the worst pain on Earth.
  • That is hilarious that I thought I would sleep after Ella was born. I don't remember when I've had more than 3 hours of sleep in a stretch.
And finally...

PHASE III: NOW :)
  • I now know that about 99% of moms can breastfeed. The problem is lack of support/willingness in our culture.
  • Attachment parenting only for us!
  • Co-sleeping family!
  • Only chemical-free, natural baby products has led to an entirely chemical-free, natural household. The only mainstream stores I grocery shop at now are Trader Joe's and Whole Foods, with the rarest of exceptions.
  • Exclusive cloth diapering.
  • Done with teaching in public schools! Stay-at-home mom with a 4-hour per week out-of-the-home job. Working toward a second career of being an at-home medical transcriptionist.
  • Stroller and crib? How about sling and Snuggle Nest?
  • Eating about 60-70 percent organic. In the planning stages of suburban homesteading and hoping to eventually grow the majority of our food.
  • Almost completely vegetarian!
  • Unconditional parenting.
  • 750 square foot house.
  • Planning on child-led weaning.
  • Always nurse uncovered in public, anytime, anywhere out of principle. I volunteer to be that one person you saw nursing uncovered in public.
  • Strongly leaning toward homebirth next time. I can't believe I was so ignorant to let them take her away from me in the hospital and I am willing to bet that that contributed to our breastfeeding problems (statistics back me up on this!)
  • Will have a natural birth next time! When I think I can't take the pain anymore, I will remember that moms who have natural births have a lower incidence of postpartum depression and I'm pretty sure that will get me through the contraction.
  • Sleep is overrated!
Talk about a metamorphosis.